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15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy
Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them,
will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many
things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and
instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free
and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give
up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change.
Ready? Here we go
1. Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?
2. Give up your need for
control. Be willing to give up your need to always control everything
that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc.
Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the
street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just
as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.
“By letting it go
it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and
try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu
3. Give up on blame.
Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for
what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start
taking responsibility for your life.
4. Give up your
self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. How many people are hurting
themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating
mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you –
especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a
superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very
destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5. Give up your limiting
beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible.
From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you
stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an
idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly
Roselle
6. Give up complaining.
Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things
– people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed.
Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless
you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in
you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of
positive thinking.
7. Give up the luxury of
criticism. Give up your need to criticize things, events or people
that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We
all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be
understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.
8. Give up your need to
impress others. Stop trying so hard to be something that
you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way.
The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the
moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real
you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
9. Give up your resistance
to change. Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B.
Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those
around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss
and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph
Campbell
10. Give up labels.
Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as
being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds
only work when open.
“The highest
form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything
about.” Wayne Dyer
11. Give up on your fears.
Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it.
It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into
place.
“The
only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D.
Roosevelt
12. Give up your excuses.
Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A
lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of
growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying
to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time
are not even real.
13. Give up the past.
I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better
than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into
consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will
ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now
dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding
yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a
journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare
yourself, but always be present in the now.
14. Give up attachment.
This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell
you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something
impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you
detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your
love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one
another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well,
real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t
be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so
peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where
you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond
words.
15. Give up living your
life to other people’s expectations. Way too many people are
living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to
what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what
their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and
their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They
ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing
everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose
control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want,
what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves. You
have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and
especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your
path.
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Are you ready to commit to some of all these things?
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Are you ready to commit to some of all these things?
